Hidden Gems: Meet Heidi Bee of Divorce Comeback Coach

Today we’d like to introduce you to Heidi Bee

Hi Heidi, please kick things off for us with an introduction to yourself and your story.
In 2015, I woke up day after my divorce was final and I was devastated. Sitting in my tiny studio apartment, feeling lost, lonely and more confused than ever about myself and my life, I was at an all-time low. I call this place, “the divorce ditch”. It’s a place no married person sees themselves stumbling into, but someone I tripped and fell hard into the ditch. I have no clue what to do, or how to navigate this transitional & traumatic time. To be honest, at first I tried to numb out using food, alcohol, Netflix, naps, even pouring myself into work as much as possible. I’d also spend nearly every Saturday walking aisle of Barnes & Noble Bookstore, trying to find a book that said, “How to find yourself & feel alive again after divorce.” But nothing like that existed. So I started reading a few “self-help” books, but nothing hit on the topic specific to divorce. I would wake up every morning in what felt like “ground hogs day” – where I’d go through the motions of each day continuing to feel sad. I had actually convinced myself that this was it, I was going to have to take it till I make it the rest of my life, because “this is just what divorce is.” Two years into the redundancy, I decided I’d had enough. I wanted to feel genuinely happy again & I needed to do something about it. I saw an ad on social media about becoming a life coach & healing past pain. I ended up joining the 12-month program, simply with the goal of healing myself. I figured, if the tools I learned would work on me, then they could work for anyone! Because what I wanted more than anything was to feel like me and reclaim my joy. To my disbelief, only 8-weeks into the program, I felt a significant shift in myself and my wellbeing. I started to feel like a more empowered version of myself rather than a victim. And after graduating in 2018, I was totally transformed. My life was upleveling in all areas: Job promotions, upgraded beach apartment, deep & meaningful friendships, and I even attracted love again. Even though I loved the job I was at, there was no way I could walk away from sharing these tools with as many people as possible. I gave my job 2-months notice and started building my coaching company. I built the kind of experience I wish was available when I was going through divorce. I wanted to give people the roadmap, the resources, and the relationships they needed to navigate their new normal & thrive after divorce… and I did just that. The Divorce Comeback Course & Community is a 3-month experience where divorced women meet each other to journey together on the road of reclaiming who they are and what they feel like they have lost. The Course is jam-packed with weekly learning modules, workbooks & breathwork audio practices. The group meets virtually every week & we cultivate deep and meaningful connections that last. And a key ingredient is the real-time connection and support they can get via a free voice-note App. This allows us to connect anytime of the day to one another. It’s an honor and a joy to not only journey with these women, but to see what life allows when they step into the shoes of the woman they truly want to be. This is my life’s greatest work & why I know divorce was just a part of my path.

Alright, so let’s dig a little deeper into the story – has it been an easy path overall and if not, what were the challenges you’ve had to overcome?
I love this question because if you asked me 5-9 years ago, that version of me would have answered, “I had so many struggles!” But the version of me TODAY believes that there are no setbacks in life, only setUPs for incredible comebacks. Everything on our path is there to show us or grow us. What I mean by that is the “bumps” in the road you are referring to have the ability to reveal so much to us. And it’s in the way that we respond to these bumps that determine weather or not we will grow, level-up, and evolve, or stay stuck. The journey of entrepreneurship is full of lessons and growth. Our challenges give us a change to be proud of the effort it takes to do what we are doing. If it was easy, everyone would do it, right? Choosing a service-based business (helping others) has been the most rewarding and purpose-driven thing I have ever done. When I have the moments of feeling those bumps in the road, I lean on my “why”. If you are a business owner and don’t relfect on your “why” regularly, there is a good chance you are going to get stuck, or make decisions that aren’t right for your customers/clients. My “why” is the version of my post-divorce laying on the bathroom floor bawling her eyes out day-after-day. She had lost all of her joy. She was confused, she was lost, she was lonely, and she was stuck in the “divorce ditch”. When business feels hard, I picture her… SHE needs me to step up and get out of my struggle story so I can give her a hand out of the ditch & let her enjoy life again – find herself again. The biggest lesson I’ve learned on this journey so far is to keep trying and to quiet the sound of insecurity in your own head. The choice to run your own business is full of choices and also trial and error. So when you make a choice and it doesn’t have the immediate outcome you desire, be patient and know that it was on path. It may have a future pay-off, or you may just realized that option wasn’t a fit for now… and that’s OK. Reminding myself to keep going and that not everything is going to play out exactly as I hoped has been a key to my wellbeing and success.

Appreciate you sharing that. What should we know about Divorce Comeback Coach ?
Hi, I’m Heidi Bee, Divorce Comeback Coach. I’m a certified & trauma informed divorce coach and somatic breathwork facilitator. My 3-month Comeback Course & Coaching Community gives women the exact roadmap, resources & relationships they need to navigate their new normal & get their life back after divorce. I am also the host of the podcast, Divorce Comeback Coach where we have candid conversations with truth talk & tips to start taking your next best step now towards the life you deserve & desire. When I went through my divorce, I had to get to the place and space where I was tired of feeling stuck. And when I arrived there I said, ENOUGH ready, I’m going to get up off the bathroom floor & reclaim my joy. It became a journey to my true self and a commitment to reclaiming my joy. Joy can be an acronym for JUST OWN YOU. You get to choose to be in charge of your next step and own your comeback. What sets me apart from others is the combination of both personal & professional experience. What sets my business apart from others is that I connect & related to client from both my personal experience as a divorced woman, and my professional certifications as a life coach & breathwork facilitator.
When clients come to me, I can feel deeply and viscerally what they are going through, because I’ve been there. But I’m also on the other side of it now with a transformational toolbox that is ready to be shared. In addition, Comeback Coaching focuses on the “what now” (becoming aware of the spot you are at) and “what next (creating the life & person you want to become) & the steps to take next to navigate your new normal. Our Comeback Community & Coaching Course blends together the Roadmap, Resources, AND Relationships needed to feel like you & thrive after divorce.
I’m most proud of the women I serve and the commitments they make to take their lives back & then watch them enjoy it!

If we knew you growing up, how would we have described you?
I think this question would be better answered by my parents (seriously), but I’ll share what they have told me & what I can remember in hindsight. From a young age, I was a curious soul and always willing to “push the edges”. I know that I pushed my parents buttons early on, and I think this came from my deep desire to explore and know more. I still have this version inside of me today & think it’s what helps me in this space of recovery work. Because recovery is simply self-discovery – choosing to learn more about yourself, your interests, your values, you desires and then intentionally moving through life to honor all of it. I was always the girl who wanted to be everyone’s friend. I’ve loved relationships and people my whole life. I’ve always wanted to be a “part” of something. I was involved in lot’s of group activities and experiences where you got to express yourself and push the limits. I’ve always enjoyed variety and still find it one of my top core needs today. I think my parents would tell you that throughout my younger years I always wanted to make sure people were included and cared for. I was a loyal, trustworthy, energetic soul then and after reclaiming myself post divorce I’m even more of those things authentically now.

Contact Info:

• Website: https://DivorceComebackCoach.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcecomebackcoach/
• Other: https://linktr.ee/DivorceComebackCoach & Podcast: Divorce Comeback Coach: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/divorce-comeback-coach/id1486352885?ign-itscg=30200&ign-itsct=lt_p